Good insight into how full-on how clinical "Dissassociative Identity Disorder" works - with the committee in the mind - the "parts" with various opinions and all. Some dismissing it, some wanting to cut-and-run, etc. From the guy's perspective, you're way overthinking it.

It is not a relationship or honesty issue, just a physical release for him. But this is the reality of where you are at at the time of this writing, so of course it will raise the questions it raises, given where you are at. And it is understandable how your mind goes to all the "what ifs" it might mean, given the daddy and trust issues you hint at. Good that you were honest about your need for reassurance. Some alters more secure than others. Some alters more mature and communicative than others. Insight into what it is like to be a mess (aka traumatized), but still trying hard to be whole/mature, but still not there. In time.

I hope you have a therapist that understands DID (dissassociatve identity disorder). Love requires ruthless honesty and love is always confrontational to our insecurities becuase it constantly requires that vulnerable, "unconfortable" conversations on a regular basis. Real communication does give voice to the reassurance you need and is far better than silence and haunting questions. Real love requires a LOT of courage - courage on a reular basis to be real - which is why so few people attain it. A great book for further growth would be: "Bold Love" by Dan B Allender & Tremper Longman.